Folks – this is a tough one. And I’m honestly torn so feedback is most welcome this post…
Pineapple is a royal mess. She does not listen. Her teachers complain about her behavior EVERY SINGLE DAY. She hasn’t gotten a sticker in weeks because she isn’t using her manners nor is she treating her friends/teachers/parents with respect. She is HITTING people. Hard. And across the face. We have no idea where or why this is coming from because nobody is hitting her and she certainly isn’t exposed to this sort of behavior in our home…in other words, we don’t go around slapping each other.
My little Pineapple is a sweet, wonderful girl. She is, according to her teachers, the “snuggliest kid they have.” She loves kisses and hugs and to curl up next to us with a book. She’s generous, kind and happily shares her toys. She perfectly fits the description “when she is good, she is very, very good…but when she is bad, she is AWFUL.”
I’m torn because I’ve now had several folks advise me to consider corporal punishment as the time out system is no longer getting through to her. And not only is she naughty, some of the things she does are dangerous (e.g., standing on furniture, running to the stairs, slapping helping hands away as they try to assist her as she makes her way up or down stairs, running toward the street, etc.). Tim and I agreed that we didn’t want to spank her if we could avoid it. It just wasn’t our punishment of choice. But we also don’t want to do her a disservice by allowing her to become the child that nobody wants to be around becuase of her bad behavior.
My feeling is that if you spank your child calmy – explaining why you are doing so, and explaining that these are the rules and they must be followed. Not several spanks – nothing harsh – more of an “attention grabbing pop” – then this is acceptable. Doing so while you’re angry/frantic/pushed to your limit/and accompanied by screaming is not OK in my book. We’re considering giving it a go….
What do YOU think? How do YOU discipline your wee one? All thoughts are welcome – I just ask that we all be respectful of each others’ perspectives…
XOXO – Rachael